I know that my boyfriend loves me, but he's a flirt. Is there a way to curb his flirting?

I don't want to hurt my boyfriend, but I really don't appreciate how he flirts with other people. Another thing: our relationship is a secret because his ex-girlfriend would tear apart our friendship with another girl, because his ex would force the other girl to choose between being friends with us, or her. Confusing, and complicated already, now add to the equation another girl who my boyfriend keeps flirting with. He flirts with others too, but this girl is very flirty herself, and it's his natural inclination to flirt... I want to be the only one he flirts with, but I know that it's pretty unrealistic, so I just wish that he's tone down his flirting a little bit. I don't expect him to hang all over me, and be Mr. I-Am-Here-No-Matter-What-And-Other-Girls... but I don't want him to walk past me in favor of flirting with others. I know that the whole 'keeping it a secret' thing just makes things worse, and... yeah...

I know that my boyfriend loves me, but he's a flirt. Is there a way to curb his flirting?
Ouch, first off, you poor girl! Second, no good friend will force a friend to choose between two friends. That's just wrong. You shouldn't have to keep your relationship a secret unless you want to. But keeping it a secret also means that if he does something... like flirt... no one would call him on it because no one knows. If everyone knew, he might be less inclined to flirt. Then again, there are just some guys and girls who just flirt by nature. If this is the case, you knew that going into this and you have to deal with it. Otherwise, talk to him. Don't acuse him but tell him how it makes you feel. It hurts you and that's not right. If he's a decent guy, he'll realize that he's hurting you and will want to stop. Otherwise, he's not worth it.
Reply:My boyfriend does the same thing and it's killing me(literally) so I left him and I think you should do the same
Reply:tell him you love him, and there's know need to flirt. then kiss him after as an 'apology'
Reply:the answer is NO
Reply:there is no way to change him unless he puts effort into wanting to change.
Reply:Time to move on methinks. What you're describing is a relationship built on lies initially. It puts too much strain on both of you to keep your relationship a secret and that's never healthy. As far as the flirting goes, maybe he flirts because he doesn't know how to tell you that he isn't comfortable being in a relationship like that? Or maybe he's just a flirt. But even if he is, he still comes home to you, right? That's all that should matter if he really cares about you. But the fact that his flirting bothers you so much indicates to me that you're insecure about him leaving you for a 'better' girl. If you can't trust him with other girls, why put yourself through the torture of wondering? Find a guy who you can trust, or better yet, work on fixing your insecurities about that, because those will end any relationship if they get out of hand...
Reply:This is a sure-fire cure:


"Please respect me enough to not flirt with other girls in front of my face. You can flirt all you want when I'm not around, but not in my presence."
Reply:i think that he might like this girl he flirts with cuz,i was in a relationship with this flirty cute guy and i didn't know him and this girl went out.So i'm like do u like her and he would always say the same thing "EWW..HELL NO" and i'm like ok.Then like 3 weeks ago i found out that they did go out and that he still likes her.So my advise is be careful cuz your b/f will lie if he has to.Don't trust a guy fully until you truly know HIM!!
Reply:if u guys truly are friends with this friend then let the relationship be on all tabloids and magazines..if your friend chooses the ex then the friendship you guys have with her is shallow...


i think the reason why your bf wants to keep the relationship a secret is for him to be still free and be available in the eyes of other girls...whle you my friend sits there and watch in pain...tsk..tsk...y are you doing this to yourself????
Reply:Have you told him how his flirting makes YOU feel? Maybe if he understood that better, he'd "curb" the flirting temptations.
Reply:by flirting wit other people and acting like u do want him
Reply:leave him, thats so insulting and he should be enslaved.....join the revolution
Reply:First of all if you two really did care about each other then it wouldn't be a seceret.I would let everyone know about you two because my mom said that if a guy doesn't tell anyone then tey're ashamnd of you. but i wouldn't be because u sound nice and the ex- part just dont listen and depend on each other and not on what other people say or think.Need any mor help my email is pink_bashful_lady@yahoo.com!!! HOPE everything works out and was a little bit of help on your sistuation%26gt;%26gt;???