Why do people flirt when they are already with someone?

I am happy within a relationship but when i encounter new interesting people i cannot resist flirting when they flirt with me which can lead to innapropriate contact, how do i avoid this.

Why do people flirt when they are already with someone?
it's only natural, best way is to minimise contact, flirt all u like but when u start touching, rethink!
Reply:i am the same i flirt like mad but would die off if someone tried to take it to the next step i think we just like to be liked that's all
Reply:Keef u,


Well, To flirt or not to flirt, or Not to flirt: That is the question.


With apologies to Shakespeare and Hamlet (Act 3, scene 1).





I would like to express my opinion on this one as I have a lot of experience here.


I am a big flirt. BUT, when I do flirt with a person, I do not have any type of clandestine, covert or any other hidden meanings or suggestions or agendas that may be applied.


I have a big heart; I flirt for the sole purpose of attempting to make a person feel better about themselves. When a woman is the recipient of my nature, she will most of the time say “Wow, someone noticed me today.” That is special to me. If I offend a person than I immediately apologize.


My heart is pure and my intentions are honorable so it is a rare time that I do need to apologize. I am also told that I am a very attractive and sweet so this as well may help a person feel good as well.





Now, when I was married and was deprived of intimacy with my spouse. I flirted for more reasons that were more self-serving than giving. We were not intimate very much at ALL. So I needed to know if there was something wrong with me. So I flirted to see if women found me desirable, as my spouse did not. Oh, I was true and loyal to my vows. But I just needed some sort of validation.





Now, my thoughts on other married persons flirting, (at least to a degree that should not happen) ties into my last paragraph. People just need some validation or confirmation that they are worth spending a few moments of their time with and being listened to without any judgments. Plus it can lead to immoral escapes as well. A person needs to be strong if they are being flirted with and the gut should be the one to consult before it goes to far.


Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. That is the key. Have some boundaries.


Wow, I’m writing a book here, better stop now before your question is forgotten in the dust.


Hope this helped some,


Smiles to you,


Jeff
Reply:cause its fun xx ;-)
Reply:Of course you can resist, you just don't choose to. Ego boosts. But even these aren't always worth it.
Reply:Is it that you are being overly friendly or actually flirting. Do you flirt because you are not getting that kind of attention with your significant other?





Dress a little differently or do something out of the ordinary with your significant other that would cause them to sit up and take notice. This may cause some attention to flow your way at home.
Reply:they like the attention if flirting goes to far back off or tell them your happy with who you have.its alright to be just friends and just flirt.
Reply:women are like car's every so often you get cheesed off with your old banger and fancy a test drive of the new model that gives better performance and handling.
Reply:ask the married guy i'm talking to
Reply:flirting as i have always thought is just with words..if you are having contact that you know is inappropriate simply do not do it...when you think you might, just imagine what you would do if the person you are with walked up while you were doing that
Reply:its natural long as u dnt act on it or lead anyone on it makes the world a happier place enjoy but be good
Reply:If u were truly happy you wud not let it lead on to any thing else. It shud be enough to know u cud if u wanted to. You need to re-assess what it is you want from your relationship. Some one will get hurt other wise. Sorry if i sound harsh, but there IS such thing as harmless flirting.
Reply:Funny how people can be dating and still be looking for the


Mr. RIght / Fairy Princess! What if relationship wasnt supposed to last forever and once we got all the growth we could we move on. Funny also how after the sex is over and the lights come on and there's no mental stimulation we get bored. Given that is it, any wonder we flirt looking for the minds continuous desire for new stimulation..need i say more?





Check my other answers for more value ;)
Reply:Just don't do it! SHeesh! Stop acting like you can't help it. You can, and you know exactly what you are doing.
Reply:because it makes you feel wanted and pretty...


you need to find out why you need that, and what's missing in your relationship that needs to be filled...
Reply:I've been married for 32 years and still flirt - it's a way of feeling that you are still attractive enough for someone to still want to flirt with you...and it has NEVER lead to 'inappropriate contact'!!!
Reply:Cause flirting is fun and it does no harm.... mostly!
Reply:maybe bec u want a variety.....
Reply:Find a new way to get attention! For your ego!ID!
Reply:Flirting is part time.Other one full time.
Reply:Everyone loves to flirt. It is not that you are being unfaithful - it is simply that you are showing the opposite sex that you respect them in their beauty and charm - thats all. Nothing to worry about
Reply:u can still flirt, but get rid of the innapropriate contact.


basically dont do it too much.


that^ only applies if ur single. DO NOT FLIRT W/ ANYONE BUT UR SPOUSE IF UR MARRIED!!





if u really feel bad about it (ie: how can i avoid this) just play hard 2 get %26amp; ignore them. its fun 2 see the looks on their faces.
Reply:that means that you are not satisfied wit the guy that you are wit so you need more.and plus it's fun to flirt,the only way is to train yourself to have self control
Reply:Well females and males do that because of harmonal issues and scent most likely if you meet someone new youll remember their scent or how they act if its something good you'll be attracted to it its just how humans act and animals
Reply:FLIRTING IS HARMLESS, UNLESS YOU TAKE IT TO ANOTHER LEVEL.
Reply:they love the danger more than the fling
Reply:keef u :


It is either: the ( someone) in your relation is not good enough for you,


or: you are not good for him/her.


Any how sotp responding to every cue. Instead look at the beggars ( some are in real need) and donate some money, perhaps just enough for a cheap meal!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:Well I do it because it is fun and my man likes it, likes to see other men smile at me because Im going home with him